When anger becomes distorted and rotten, it transforms into resentment. This happens when we take an old wound and blame it on something bothering us now.
Everybody gets angry sometimes, and there are healthy ways to channel anger. If it drives you to seek good and justice, then it’s positive. If it makes you feel like hurting someone, then something is wrong. If left to linger too long, you can even begin to feel resentment when you see blessings happen. It’s as if life is unfair only to you.
If you notice yourself feeling hate and disgust for someone, check your heart. Is your reaction appropriate? Is it in line with your values and convictions? Does it reflect your faith in a loving Savior?
Go to God when you feel resentment. Be sincere with yourself and with the Lord. Let him show you what’s going on inside your heart. And then let him reveal to you the doorway to freedom.
A message and prayer from Vincent:
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“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.
Matthew 7:3-5
Jesus then said to the Jews who had believed in him, “If you continue in my word, you are truly my disciples, and you will know the truth, and the truth will make you free.”
John 8:31-32
PRAYER TO BE FREE FROM RESENTMENT (regular text)
Oh loving Lord,
If I see wrong or don’t agree, I get angry sometimes or even seethe with rage.
Why does this happen? Why am I so resentful? Won’t you help me?
Forgive me, oh Lord, for hurting and condemning even if just in my heart. I look at the sin of others while a plank blinds my own eye.
Show me, oh Lord, the root of my reaction, my hate. Show me where it all began and free me from that hurt. Heal my history and my heart.
Help me to forgive.
Cast out any spirit that tempts me to look upon others with hate instead of compassion. I have no right, oh Lord, for I am a sinner too.
Let your mercy guide me, and may the joy of my salvation be my message to all.
For you alone are holy, you alone are the Lord.
In Jesus name,
Amen.
I am so judgemental, I seem to think I am the only one who has it right. I need to learn how to lose my feeling of rage. I am so full of rage.
Dear Mary,
I totally understand how you feel. I get like that sometimes too… I think we all do to some extent. It might be that you need inner healing. Maybe you know what you need to heal, maybe not. But begin to ask for this, out loud, in prayer. Ask for the Lord to send his healing to you everyday. Start there and seek the Lord.
Just say, “Please Lord heal me. Heal me of my wounds. I need your tender healing touch. I’ve been hurt and wounded. Heal me please, O merciful Lord.” … and continue with your own words along the same line.
Open yourself up to his goodness. Learn to trust him. You will see wonderful changes, I’m sure of it.
Be blessed by the grace of the Lord.
I will be praying for you!
Vincent
Please pray for me and my husband and our new marriage. We are having difficulties. I need peace and trust in him. And truth
Help them oh Lord… send your Spirit and peace… pour out your mercy… free them from division… unite them in your love oh Lord… in Jesus name, Amen.
I will keep praying for you and your marriage!
This is a sick man. How can I be helpful to him? God save me from being angry. Thy will be done. “
Pray for him. Forgive him in your heart. Set healthy limits.
I will be praying for you!