If you see something wrong, what do you do about it? Do you speak up or keep quiet? Are you afraid or angry? Before you confront a person about anything, consider these questions:
- Is the mistake, or sin, something obvious?
- Are you a first hand witness?
- Was the mistake a one time occurence, or repeated?
- Have you resolved significant failure in your life?
- Would silence speak louder than words?
You don’t have to be perfect to correct someone, but you should have the right motives. If you have feelings of anger, resentment, or vengeance, then it’s better to wait.
Resist the temptation to mix in other issues you might have. Instead, be very specific. Your primary goal should be to restore the person. Like Jesus, using a clear strategy keeps you free of Satan’s traps. During the entire process, be prayerful. Let God show you the way.
If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every word may be confirmed by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.
But exhort one another every day, as long as it is called “today,” that none of you may be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin.
Above all hold unfailing your love for one another, since love covers a multitude of sins.
1 Peter 4:8
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